I was told that the sign for partner in ASL means “gay” (implied boyfriend) when I told them about my girlfriend this is the second time someone has been confused about this. Am I missing some cultural context for ASL or am I just signing with straight people who do not understand my queerness? Or both? Should I just use the sign for girlfriend instead?
bisexual women, don’t call yourselves gay
pansexual women, don’t call yourselves gay
non-lesbian women, if you still like dick
if you are not exclusively attracted to the SAME SEX
DON’T CALL YOURSELF LESBIAN EITHER
you can go fuck yourself cuz I will call myself everything????
In my experience, attitudes like this are found most often in non-black spaces and educated spaces and result in keeping out black and poor people. There is a different attitude towards labeling in black and poor communities, and people LOVE to police and marginalize them. It feels like another tool to create a hierarchy of “most important” LGBT ppl and then shut out those who are “less important”.