I am getting really frustrated with language policing on tumblr, I understand the need to create a safe space and check people when they are being oppressive. Yet often the language policing feels very academic, abilist, and classist. I have seen so many spaces where white underclass queer and trans people have used language to keep out anyone who does not fit that mold. Even this paragraph ugh I don’t know…
Also you can say all of the “right” things and still be just as much of a jerk. I can’t tell you how many racist “white anti-racist” people I have met.
i find it really angering that abusive friendships aren’t addressed as much as abusive relationships. they’re both very much alike, horrible, and do a great deal of damage. its hard to talk to someone about leaving an abusive friend and feel like you’re being taken seriously